About two weeks ago, I mentioned in passing about receiving another baby shower invitation. Last week, I declined it, emailing the host, a neighbor, that for certain reasons, I can't do baby showers right now.
She knew exactly what I was talking about.
I checked my email on Friday and saw that she'd sent a reply. She told me in two simple lines that she understands and she went through much the same thing before her daughter was born two years ago. I'd suspected she might have dealt with it from a chance comment she dropped when she was pregnant. There are more people coping with infertility than we realize.
Why do we continue letting infertility be such a silent disease? Think of the support we might find if we would only open our mouths. The questions is: am I brave enough to do that? I believe I might be eventually . . . but not today.
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I think it's one of the saddest things, especially evident in the RE waiting room. We are ALL there struggling, and yet no one talks to each other because apparently it is still taboo at the RE...
At least we have blogs to connect us!! :)
Yes, this blog has helped me to connect with other women that are dealing with the same issues I am. It helps to know I'm not alone. I'm careful about sharing openly about my IF because sometimes it leads to ignorant comments like "Oh I had IF for three months." (hardly IF) or If you relax...blah, blah, blah. Sometimes it's not worth it. However, if someone else opens up to me...I may share. I'm out to protect my heart.
Praying for Hope,
What do mean "Am I brave enough to do that?" You've done so on this wonderful blog! Lately, I have been very vocal about my IF because I've found it to be extremely liberating. It's kind of like I wanted to tell my own secret before somebody else told it incorrectly or speculated about it. That has brought me some comfort because most people have responded very well (yes, you will have some who are innocently ignorant...I wrote a blog about them)
I have also found it strange that I have silently connected with so many women I don't know through their blogs and have found much of my comfort in knowing that I am not the only one...
You're so right. And it's funny, the things we dread - I know the right thing would be to decline a baby shower invitation if I were not in the right place to deal with it, but I would build up the "no" in my mind to such proportions that I would expect an all-out war to break out when I RSVP'd. And to have the hostess completely understand - how fabulous. Every infertile gal should be so lucky.
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